NOT GETTING MARRIED?

"Whoever seeks a friend without faults will live life alone. Whoever seeks a spouse without shortcomings will live life as a bachelor. Whoever seeks a loved one without problems will live life forever searching. And whoever seeks a relative who is perfect will live life cutting ties."

- al-Sha'rawi

If you keep seeking perfection in beings that were created imperfect, you will neither find what you're looking for, nor will you will be happy with what you've got. So it's best to accept people as they are and overlook their faults. "... and We have made some of you as a trial for others; will you be patient? And your Lord is Ever All-Seer." [al-Furqan: 20]

Hadith's, Quotes and Positive Sayings

MARRIAGE is the rainbow between two hearts sharing seven colours: feelings , secrets , love , happiness , grief , faith , and respect .. As they work towards Jannatul Ferdous , TOGETHER. #♥

DONT GIVE UP !!

At times looking for a pious spouse can be a long
process. We pray, we search, we wait and nothing
happens for what might seem like eternity. This can
be a time when Shaitan will try to discourage us, or
even entice us to look using haram means. Brothers and sisters - don’t give up! Remember that
“Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is
laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard
and slow - that is patience.” {O you who have
believed, seek help through patience and prayer.
Indeed, Allah is with the patient.} [Quran 2:153]

#purematrimony.com

‎"Never make fun of any one who can not do what you can do easily, it's easy for you because Allah made it easy for you."
Golden Words Islam

Verily, when He withholds, He actually gives, because He did not withhold on account of miserliness or stinginess, but rather He looked at the benefit of the servant. So the fact that He withheld is actually His choice for the servant and His excellent decision.

—Sufyān al-Thawrī


“If people let you down, specifically those beloved and close to you, or if you put your hope in someone after Allah and they don’t come through, at that point know that Allah wants you to turn to Him.”

Shaykh Al-Shinqiti

“Some people will see one girl here, another one there; then other one there, then they will go and see another. Is it a kind of shopping you are doing? Are they something which is being sold in supermarkets for you to go and see and pick? No, come on brothers! They are DAUGHTERS to somebody; they are SISTERS to somebody; they are VALUED, BELOVED to somebody. They are TREASURES which are not easily taken. So BE A MAN. Do your homework FIRST before proposing to one. Don’t go and DARE to purpose to another if you have not yet said yes/no to the first one. Don’t you know your taste that you continue doing your shopping and keeping numerous choices for you to decide in the end. It is not a part of having good manners.’’
[ Dr.Muhammad Anwar Sahib, Fiqh 202, BAIS Islamic Online University]

Hadith's, Quotes and Positive Sayings

“Trials and tribulation are like feeling the heat and cold, when one knows that they cannot be avoided, he will not feel anger at theirs onset, nor will he be distressed or disheartened.”

Ibn Taymiyyah

Women In Islam

Be a wife like this...
A man said to the Messenger of Allah (SWT): I have a wife who welcomes me at the door when I enter the house, and sees me off when I leave. When she sees me grieved, asks me: 'What are you grieved for? If you are anxious about your livelihood, it is guaranteed by other than you: or if you are worried about the hereafter, may Allah increase your worries.' The Messenger of Allah SWT said: "Allah SWT has agents and she is one of them. She will get half a martyr's reward."
THIS SHOULD BE THE ATTITUDE OF A GOOD WIFE.

‎"Whoever yields properly to Fate, is deemed
Wise among men, and knows the laws of heaven."

even when letting go of people hurts,face you heart toward ALLAH and RUN
what ever is meant for u ,will come after you .what ever is not ,will stay behind !!

Masnoon Islamic duaas

♥°★`Crying does not nullify beautiful patience. It does not mean that you don’t have patience.

In fact, the opposite is true. When you’re crying & supplicating to Allâh, it is as if you’re saying you have no one else but Allah.

It is an indication of your ikhlas & tawheed – you’re not asking anyone else but Allâh.

Prophet Ya’qub (alyhissalam) cried & cried until he lost his sight. He was not just patient, he was beautifully patient & his patience was beautiful.
It is a complete patience in that he turned to Allâh alone in his calamity.`♥°★

Time and again, we are asked about the reason behind someone's delay in marriage or if there is a du'a to hasten it. Know that you were not created to get married and have babies. Our purpose was worship which has been pushed behind our backs and the fitnahs of dunya have occupied us with other less important things. How many sisters get married and find the happiness that they believed lies in marriage as promoted by movies and fairytales? How many sisters got married at age 19 and ended up with abusive husbands? How many sisters got married at the "right age" but never conceived a child? How many mothers abandon their children after having them? Hold good thoughts about Allah and strive for the akhirah. Don't worry yourself too much about the things of dunya.

Here's an answer to what you should do if there has been a delay in your marriage. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ease everyone's pain, aameen.

Q. Does the delay of a girl’s marriage have anything to do with al-qada’ wa’l-qadar (the divine will and decree)? I am a girl who fears Allaah and I pray, but marriage has been delayed for me. Very few men have proposed marriage to me and all of them have faults, mostly in the area of religious commitment. I am asking: does the delay in marriage have any connection to the will and decree of Allaah or is it that I have committed a sin and Allaah is angry with me, although I fear Allaah greatly and Allaah has given me a share of beauty? I want to put my mind at rest by asking you.

Islamic Research Center for Hadith

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.

Live for Allah and die for Allah :)

‎"Let one of you acquire a thankful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter."
[Ibn Majah 1856, Sahih by Albani also Silsilah sahiha 2176].

There are only two kinds of Love which don't hurt:
1) Love for Allah (subhanahu wa ta'Ala)
2) And Love for the sake of Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'Ala)

‎"Be with Allah, if He has taken from you that which you could never have imagined losing, He will give you that which you could never have imagined owning.”

-Shaykh Muḥammad Mutawallī al-Shaʿrāwī"

Islamic Reflections

“When Allah gives, it’s a gift. When Allah withholds, that too is a gift.”
—
Dr. Umar Abd-Allah

ISLAM4PEACE

Two things make the heart very hard: too much speech and too much food.

—Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad

It is better for a woman to be married than to remain single, but it is better for her to be single than to be married to an oppressive, abusive man who makes her life an intolerable misery.

It is also better to be in a respectful polygamous marriage than in an intolerable monogamous marriage.

Marriages should not be broken for petty reasons, but when there are serious matters beyond reconciliation, divorce comes as a saviour. 
If a woman was supposed to be forced to live in an intolerable marriage, why would the Almighty give her the right to apply for a dissolution of her marriage upon the non-fulfilment of her rights by her husband? (Mufti Ismail Menk)
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/]


BEWARE OF SUSPICION!

Narrated By Abu Hurairah (Radhy-ALLAHu 'Anhu):

The PROPHET (Sall-ALLAHu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) Said, "Beware of Suspicion, For Suspicion Is The Worst o f False Tales; And Do Not Look For The Others' Faults And Do Not Spy, And Do Not Be Jealous of One Another, And Do Not Desert (Cut Your Relation With) One Another, And Do Not Hate One Another; O ALLAH's Worshippers! Be Brothers (As ALLAH Has Ordered You!")

Bukhari Vol. 8 : No. 90

‎" We often thank a bad friend for reminding us to do something stupid but become upset when a good friend reminds us to do the right thing "

[Mufti Ismail Menk]

How true is this statement?? We dont get angry at our good friends, we BUILD HATRED TOWARDS THEM!

May Allah Guide our Hearts! Ameen!

Dua's - Fortress Of The Muslims

♥ Marriage in Islam completes half of your deen.
♥ Do not be swayed by good looks or money as these will come and go.
♥ Marry a man who Truely fears and loves Allaah. Who puts Islam 1st before anything.
♥ Learn and walk in deen together.
♥ Go in a marriage with the purpose in getting closer to Allaah and Insha Allaah it will be a blessed marriage. !!! ::)

‎"Sit only in the company of one who advises you to desire little from this world and who encourages you to put your hopes in the Hereafter. Take care not to sit with worldly people who speak constantly about worldly affairs; such people will ruin your religious well-being and will corrupt your heart."

— Sufyaan Ath-Thauree (rahimullaah)

‎7 practical steps to help you face any difficult situation

►Salah: Make sure you stick to praying on time – 5 times a day. Never miss a Salah and do your best to pray each Salah with sincerity as if it’s your last Salah in this world.

►Read Quran: This Quran is so beautiful that no matter what difficulties you face you’ll find solace in it.

►Make Dua: Especially the Dua for removing anxiety.

►Give Sadaqah.: Give lots of charity, as much as you can, because it helps push away hardship. And if you can’t give money, even kind words or physical sadaqah can do (i.e. helping people physically or emotionally).

►Set Goals and Have Vision: Don’t let shaytaan play with you and keep replaying the video of your hardship in your mind over and over again, move on! Set new goals, new projects, and remember you’re with Allah, nothing should stop you!

►Wake up Early: Wake up before Fajr and work on your ideas and projects, or simply read Qur’an. Getting busy before day break is a definite way to move away from your hardship and overcome challenges. Get most of your ideas/work done in these early hours, these are blessed hours.

►Hardship is Not Lost: Remember, Allah will never forget the injustice/hardship you faced, so don’t worry about seeking revenge or trying to get justice.

*Slave Of Allah*


”When a test comes to you:
1. Know that everything is by Qadr of Allah
2. Remember that other people have bigger problems than you
3. Remember the death of the Prophet (pbuh), the greatest calamity the Ummah faced
4. Maybe through this trial, Allah has saved you from an even bigger trial.5. Through this trial Allah will remove some of your sins
6. Through this trial Allah has opened up a huge world of ibadah like sabr, salah, repentance etc
7. With this trial, Allah is putting you on the path of the Prophets. It is a confirmation that Allah loves you. The more Allah loves somebody, the more he tests them.”
— Sheikh Tawfique

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‎'Be thankful for what you have; you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.'

Allah knows your anxieties. Allah knows your worries. If you're thinking of Him, He's already taken care of those worries

‎"Allah has a perfect plan for our lives but He never reveals it to us all at once. Just step by step because He wants to teach us to walk by Faith and not by Sight."

“You know you love someone, when you pray for them more than you pray for yourself!

The Prophet sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said :
“The supplication of a Muslim for his (Muslim) brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Everytime he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: `A meen! May it be for you, too.” [Muslim, 1495]

’Abdullaah Ibn ‘Abbaas (and also in the narration mentioned by Ibn Hajar, Abu Hurayrah), said that the Prophet Muhammad said:
“Whoever sticks to my Sunnah (my way, my path, my practice, my teachings) when my Ummah becomes corrupt, will receive the reward of 100 martyrs.”

Ibn al-Qayyim:

“How many people have caused misery to their own children, the apples of their eyes, in this world and in the Hereafter, by neglecting them, not disciplining them, encouraging them to follow their whims and desires, thinking that they were honoring them when they were in fact humiliating them, that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them. They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter. If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.”(Tuhfat al-Mawlood, p. 146)

All the oceans and rivers couldn't extinguish the smallest rock in hell, but a teardrop you shed in fear of Allaah could save you from it!

Shaikh Musa Jibril

Abu Hazim Salamah bin Dinar:

"No servant of Allah mends what is between him and Allah, except that Allah mends what is between him and other servants. And he does not spoil what is between him and Allah, except that Allah spoils what is between him and the servants of Allah. Working for the sake of ones face is easier than working for the sake of all faces. For if you work for the sake of that Face [the Face of Allah], all faces will turn to you. But if you spoil it, all faces will the detest you."

(Abu Nu'aym, al-Hilya 3/239)

Allah's Apostle (May Peace,blessings and mercy of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala be on him) said,

"Do not wish to be like anyone, except in two cases: (1) A man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it righteously. (2) A man whom Allah has given wisdom (knowledge of the Quran and the Hadith) and he acts according to it and teaches it to others."

Its good to leave each day behind, like flowing water, free of sadness. Yesterday is gone & its tale told. Today new seeds are growing.

{Rumi}

Luqman's (pbuh) advice to his son

The Qur’ân contains ten precious advices Luqmân offered his son. Following is the list of this advice offered to Muslim parents, that they may communicate them to their children, family and members of society that they may implement them. If this valuable advise is followed and implemented then we will all be on the straight Path leading to Paradise. Luqmân himself summed up in a few words the way to succeed in this life and on the Day of Judgement.

1. Luqmân warns his son against the greatest injustice man can do. Allâh said that Luqmân said:

"O my son! Join not in worship others with Allâh. Verily, joining others in worship with Allâh is a great injustice indeed." [31:13]

Luqmân calls his son: "My Son". To do so catches his son's attention so that he may listen carefully to his father . Then he calls his son's attention to Tawhid. " Shirk," Luqmân said:" Is a great injustice indeed ".

Therefore, the one who associates others with Allâh in worship does injustice to Allâh, the owner and Creator of the universe. A great injustice is also done to the Mushrik by his own sellf as he subjects himself to Allâh's anger and eternal punishment in Hell.

2. Luqmân reminds his son of the rights of his parents on him,

"and We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and good to his parents. His mother bore him upon weakness and hardship" [31:14]

He describes hardships mothers face bearing children.

"And his weaning is in two years, give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination." [ 31:14]

Luqmân mentions the total dependence of infants on their mothers for two years. Thank Allâh, and then your parents . In not, then the final destination is to Allâh.

"And if they both strive with you to make you join in worship with me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly." [31:15]

Luqmân tells his son that if the parents are Mushrikîn, then do not follow their way: Allâh's right comes first by far. Even so. for as long as the live, treat your Mushrik parents with kindness.

3. Luqmân then describes some of Allâh's Might.

"O my son! If it be equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and tough it be as a rock, or in the Heavens or the earth, Allâh will bring it forth. Verily Allâh is subtle in bringing out that grain, well aware of its place." [31:16]

Allâh's Knowledge is so perfect that the existence of anything, big or small, is acknowledged and controlled by Him. Luqmân tries to impress his son reminding him of Allâh's absolute control over His kingdom. Such might and power must not be challenged or ignored by anyone.

4. A great advice to Luqman's son is to establish regular prayer, on time and with the best possible performance,

"O my son! Offer prayer perfectly." [31:17]

Prayer is the direct connection between a Muslim and his Creator. Parents must take great care to teach and call upon their children to establish prayer.

5. Luqmân advises his son to "enjoin (people) for good, and forbid from evil." [31:17]

If every Muslim observe this duty , then evil and mischief will have no place in Muslim society.

6. After the useful advice he offered his son, Luqmân recommended patience in implementing them, and in all matters of life,

"And bear with patience whatever befalls you. Verily, these are some of the important commandments ordered by Allâh with no exemption." [31:17]

Patience is a righteous act ordered, and rewarded by Allâh.

7. Arrogance is an attribute of Allâh alone and not for man.

The Creator and Owner of the universe is the only One who deserves to be Arrogant. Allâh threatens arrogant people with punishment in Hellfire. Luqmân said:

"And turn not your face away from men with pride." [31:18]

8. To be moderate is a great attitude anyone can possess,

"Nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily Allâh likes not each arrogant boaster." [31:18]

Allâh does not like that man is arrogant and proud of themselves.

9. To be moderate in walking and talking is also one of Luqman's advises to his son, "And be moderate (or show no insolence) in walking." [31:19]

Islâm offers a code of conduct in every aspect of life. Even the way Muslims walk and talk are regulated. Islam offers guidelines in this regard that will produce the best behavior and generate respect.

10. Luqmân reminds his son that being harsh while talking will liken his voice to the braying of a donkey. Shouting does not win hearts, rather , it will offend and alienate people,

"And lower your voice. Verily the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying] of an ass!!" [31:19]

WISDOM - part 2

Let’s not forget Palestine as we forgot Somalia,

Let’s not forget Syria as we forgot Chechnya,

Let’s not forget Burma as we forgot Sudan,

Let’s not forget Libya as we forgot Pakistan,

Let’s not forget Afghanistan as we forgot Iraq,

Lets not forget our Muslim Ummah,

One Ummah, One Family.

“Muslims must believe that all power, success and victory comes from ALLAH alone.” [Sheikh Abu Bakar Bashir (May Allah (SWT) hasten his release from the Indonesian dungeon also may Allah (SWT) destroy the Kafir Taghoot government of Indonesia, ameen)

Do something different today, pray for your brother/sister as much as you would pray for yourself. In sha Allah!!

the best dua

رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِيْ وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ يَوْمَ يَقُوْمُ الْحِسَابُ 

Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents and the believers on the Day when the reckoning will take place."

quran 14 -41

in this dua all muslims and muslimahs are included

When you die, your businesses won’t help you, your house won’t protect you, your clothes won’t cover you and your cars won’t save you..You spend your whole life focusing on those priceless thing, when in the end they won’t do a damn thing for you. The only one that can save you is Allah. Don’t you think you owe it to him to give him five minutes of your day?

I am not from Bangladesh. I am not from Palestine. I am not from Syria. I am not from Mali. I am not from Afghanistan and nor am I from Iraq.

But when you bleed, I will bleed too. Because we are all one Ummah. The Muslim body.

“It is strange that a person may find it easy to protect himself from: eating Haraam, oppression and injustice, adultery, theft, drinking khamr (alcoholic drinks), and from unlawful looking, but it is hard for him to restrain the movement of his tongue. How often do we see people who are very cautious about falling into shameful deeds or injustice, but their tongue lashes against the living and the dead and they don’t mind it? ”

Let us try to keep our tongues moist with the zikr if Allah subhana wa ta aala

The Messenger of Allah (Sall’Allahu alayhi wa salam) said (narrated by Jabir bin `Abdullah):

“The best Dhikr (remembering Allah) is La ilaha illallah and the best supplication is Al-Hamdu Lillah.” [At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah]

Allah has a plan for you
“Things aren’t always as they seem. The Mother of Musa (Alayhi Salam) Umm Musa was told to throw her son in the river, Yusuf (Alayhi Salam) was left for dead in a well, Maryam (radiallahu anha) delivered a child alone, Aisha (radiallahu anha) was accused of a terrible sin, Yunus (Alayhi Salam) was swallowed by a whale, Ibrahim (alayhi salam) was thrown in the fire, Muhammad (Salalahu Alayhi wa Salam) lost the love of his life Khadija (radiallahu anha), and Umm Salamah (radiallahu anha) thought no one could be better than Abu Salamah (radiallahu anhu); Yet look at how it turned out for them in the end.
So don’t worry, Allah has a plan for you.”

"If what you see by the eye doesn't please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. Because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder. Remember this: Why do we close our eyes when we pray, when we cry, when we kiss, when we dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt only by heart." 

Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places. Alhamdulillah.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “He who relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Judgment; 

he who makes easy what is difficult, Allah will make it easy for him in the world and the Hereafter; 

he who conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in the world and the Hereafter; 

Allah helps the servant so long as he helps his brother; 

he who travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy a path to Paradise;

In life,dont expect anything from anyone.

Because expectation,when not fulfilled,gives you pain.

When you get something without expecting it,

It gives you pleasure.

Keep doing your part

And leave the rest to ALLAH

Whoever exerts himself to have patience and pushes himself, when he doesn’t think that he can be patient anymore, Allaah will grant him success and Allaah will make him patient because of his struggle.”

Collected by Ahmad in his Musnad (3/12) from the narration of Aboo Sa’eed al-Khudree.

Ali Ibn Abi Talib r.a said:

"You have to forgive people for their shortcomings, no matter how much they've hurt you. And forgiving is not just saying you do, you have to do it from the heart, your actions, your thoughts, everything should reflect this otherwise you haven't truly forgiven and the only person who its going to burden the most, is yourself. Sometimes it isn't easy but forgive for the sake of ALLAH for when you do anything in the way of ALLAH, it becomes much more easier."

#Do You Know Why you are Afflicted with Hardships & Trails??

ღ Aʟʟᴀʜ ʟᴏᴠᴇs ʏᴏᴜ ღ

Allah (سبحان وا تعالى) says in the Qur'an

"And certainly We shall test you with something of fear; hunger; loss of wealth, lives and fruits (or crops), but give glad tidings to the patient ones."

(Sᴜʀᴀʜ Aʟ-Bᴀǫᴀʀᴀʜ, 2 : 155).

the Prophet (May the peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) said:

"The greatness of the reward is tied to the greatness of the trial. When Allah loves a people, He puts them to the trial. Whoever is accepting of it will have Allah's acceptance and whoever is displeased and un-accepting of it will gain Allah's displeasure."

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2396) and Ibn Maajah (4031); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

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"Dont stay in a haram Relationship with the intention of Making it halal someday, who promised you tommorrow!"

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"Whosoever leaves something for the sake of Allah then Allah, the Mighty and Magnificent, will replace it with something better than it." [Ahmad]

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A student asked his teacher ''Why do the mutahajjideen (those who pray tahajjud) have the most beautiful faces ?''

He replied '' Because they choose to spend time with Allah and brighten their hearts , so Allah adorns their faces with the light of truth''

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People must urge one another to feed the poor.

(Quran 89:18)

"Feed the poor who is contented with his lot (and does not beg), as well as him who is forced to beg."

- Quran 22:36

"Share your food with the unfortunate poor."

- Quran 22:28

"They feed the poor, the orphan and the captive ( = person in bondage for social and political reason) for the love of Allah, saying them: We feed you only for the Allah's pleasure, we desire no return nor thanks from you."

- Quran 76:8-9

"Give food to the hungry on a day of scarcity."

- Quran 90:14 

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Alhamdulillah for every blessing. Sabr for what we don't get.

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The only difference between a good day and a bad day is whether you’ve done that which is pleasing to Allah or not

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- stay away from bad company that will take you away from Allah...

If You can't find good company that will bring you closer to Allah;

at least stay away from bad company that will take you away from Him....

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When you stand up for prayer don't forget to remind your heart to join you.

“Acquiring weapons for the defense of Muslims is a religious duty... If I seek to acquire these weapons, I am carrying out a duty.”—

Martyr (insha allah) Usama Bin Ladin, December 1998

(May Allah grant him the highest ranking in Jannah)

The best doa - O Allah you are the best Of Givers, so give me the Best...Allahumma Aameen

“If a person is sincere towards Allah in all his affairs, Allah will give him more than He gives to others, and this sincerity results from true love of Allah and true trust in Him. So the most sincere of people is the one who loves Allah most and puts the most trust in Him.” 

~Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim (rahimahullah)

✦ STRIVE FOR CHANGE ✦

If you need change in your life, Seek Allâh!!! for He is the true essence of peace and happiness. After that strive for change, ask Allâh for help and guidance, for He will never fail nor misguide

If Allah has written HAPPINESS for you, then no one on earth can rob you of this. And if Allah has written for your heart to be BROKEN, then no one will be able to Remedy it except Him.

"When you lose motivation,where’s the motivation gonna come from? - The Qur'an.when you’re lonely,where’s the companionship gonna come from? - The Qur'an. It’s gonna be your companion,if you let it be. And the more you allow it to be,the more you will see its benefits. "- Nouman Ali Khan

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

By Nasiera Hardy Slamdien

The best friend you can ever have is a friend who does not always agree with everything you say.

You need someone with a different world view, who sees things differently, and is not afraid to speak their mind, even if it opposes your viewpoint.

You are in bad company, if you do not have someone who has to guts to put you straight, when you are going off track.

A true friend will tell you the truth, even if it hurts, they will not allow you to continue down a path which will destroy you. if you have friends who just let you do whatever you like and never correct you when you are wrong, you don't have friends, you have enemies.

Even in a love relationship, the Almighty will always pair you with someone with a different world view to stretch you and grow you. You do not need a "Yes man/woman" in your life.

You need someone with the guts to tell you straight to your face when you go astray.

It will be like medicine, it will not taste good, but it will be good for you.

True leaders, don't surround themselves with cheerleaders, they surround themselves with coaches.

Fate and Destiny in Islam

Here are a few things you should keep in mind.

1* Allah is the creator of all things, including our actions.

2* Belief in Allah’s power, knowledge and control of all things is one of the six articles of faith in Islam. This is called Qadar, loosely translated as Divine Destiny.

3* A person has the freedom, the choice, to do as he/she wants.

4* We have no control over the outcome of those choices.

The outcome of these choices is our destiny. Only Allah knows what this destiny is.

In summary, Muslim beliefs in Qadar (Divine Destiny) is made up of four things:

1. Understanding that Allah’s knowledge encompasses all of creation and He knows everything that His creation will do. Even before they do.

2. Believing that Allah has written all that has happen in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lawh Al-Mahfooz).

3. Accepting that whatever Allah decrees will take place, and whatever He does not will, does not take place.

4. Knowing that Allah has created all things, including the actions of His creation.

As Shaykh Muhammad Faqih once said, “Hook up with Allah, Allah will hook you up!”

As was once stated, “A person has never held certainty in Allah only for Allah to disappoint him or her. Never will Allah disappoint those with yaqeen (certainty), tawakkul (reliance) and husn al-dhann (good opinion) of Him.”

* He will Attain with Du'a What He Cannot Without Du'a

If a person says that he does not make supplication because he relies on the divine decree, he is also erring, because Allah has made du’aa and asking means of attaining His forgiveness, mercy, guidance, support and provision.

If good is decreed for a person he will attain by du’aa what he cannot attain without du’aa. What Allah has decreed and knows with regard to His slaves’ circumstances and destinies is only decreed on the basis of means and decrees will be fulfilled at the appointed times.

There is nothing that happens in this world or in the Hereafter except on the basis of cause and effect; Allah is the Creator of both cause and effect. Disregarding the principle of cause and effect is contrary to reason.

— Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah