NOT GETTING MARRIED?

"Whoever seeks a friend without faults will live life alone. Whoever seeks a spouse without shortcomings will live life as a bachelor. Whoever seeks a loved one without problems will live life forever searching. And whoever seeks a relative who is perfect will live life cutting ties."

- al-Sha'rawi

If you keep seeking perfection in beings that were created imperfect, you will neither find what you're looking for, nor will you will be happy with what you've got. So it's best to accept people as they are and overlook their faults. "... and We have made some of you as a trial for others; will you be patient? And your Lord is Ever All-Seer." [al-Furqan: 20]

Hadith's, Quotes and Positive Sayings

MARRIAGE is the rainbow between two hearts sharing seven colours: feelings , secrets , love , happiness , grief , faith , and respect .. As they work towards Jannatul Ferdous , TOGETHER. #♥

DONT GIVE UP !!

At times looking for a pious spouse can be a long
process. We pray, we search, we wait and nothing
happens for what might seem like eternity. This can
be a time when Shaitan will try to discourage us, or
even entice us to look using haram means. Brothers and sisters - don’t give up! Remember that
“Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is
laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard
and slow - that is patience.” {O you who have
believed, seek help through patience and prayer.
Indeed, Allah is with the patient.} [Quran 2:153]

#purematrimony.com

‎"Never make fun of any one who can not do what you can do easily, it's easy for you because Allah made it easy for you."
Golden Words Islam

Verily, when He withholds, He actually gives, because He did not withhold on account of miserliness or stinginess, but rather He looked at the benefit of the servant. So the fact that He withheld is actually His choice for the servant and His excellent decision.

—Sufyān al-Thawrī


“If people let you down, specifically those beloved and close to you, or if you put your hope in someone after Allah and they don’t come through, at that point know that Allah wants you to turn to Him.”

Shaykh Al-Shinqiti

“Some people will see one girl here, another one there; then other one there, then they will go and see another. Is it a kind of shopping you are doing? Are they something which is being sold in supermarkets for you to go and see and pick? No, come on brothers! They are DAUGHTERS to somebody; they are SISTERS to somebody; they are VALUED, BELOVED to somebody. They are TREASURES which are not easily taken. So BE A MAN. Do your homework FIRST before proposing to one. Don’t go and DARE to purpose to another if you have not yet said yes/no to the first one. Don’t you know your taste that you continue doing your shopping and keeping numerous choices for you to decide in the end. It is not a part of having good manners.’’
[ Dr.Muhammad Anwar Sahib, Fiqh 202, BAIS Islamic Online University]

Hadith's, Quotes and Positive Sayings

“Trials and tribulation are like feeling the heat and cold, when one knows that they cannot be avoided, he will not feel anger at theirs onset, nor will he be distressed or disheartened.”

Ibn Taymiyyah

Women In Islam

Be a wife like this...
A man said to the Messenger of Allah (SWT): I have a wife who welcomes me at the door when I enter the house, and sees me off when I leave. When she sees me grieved, asks me: 'What are you grieved for? If you are anxious about your livelihood, it is guaranteed by other than you: or if you are worried about the hereafter, may Allah increase your worries.' The Messenger of Allah SWT said: "Allah SWT has agents and she is one of them. She will get half a martyr's reward."
THIS SHOULD BE THE ATTITUDE OF A GOOD WIFE.

‎"Whoever yields properly to Fate, is deemed
Wise among men, and knows the laws of heaven."

even when letting go of people hurts,face you heart toward ALLAH and RUN
what ever is meant for u ,will come after you .what ever is not ,will stay behind !!

Masnoon Islamic duaas

♥°★`Crying does not nullify beautiful patience. It does not mean that you don’t have patience.

In fact, the opposite is true. When you’re crying & supplicating to Allâh, it is as if you’re saying you have no one else but Allah.

It is an indication of your ikhlas & tawheed – you’re not asking anyone else but Allâh.

Prophet Ya’qub (alyhissalam) cried & cried until he lost his sight. He was not just patient, he was beautifully patient & his patience was beautiful.
It is a complete patience in that he turned to Allâh alone in his calamity.`♥°★

Time and again, we are asked about the reason behind someone's delay in marriage or if there is a du'a to hasten it. Know that you were not created to get married and have babies. Our purpose was worship which has been pushed behind our backs and the fitnahs of dunya have occupied us with other less important things. How many sisters get married and find the happiness that they believed lies in marriage as promoted by movies and fairytales? How many sisters got married at age 19 and ended up with abusive husbands? How many sisters got married at the "right age" but never conceived a child? How many mothers abandon their children after having them? Hold good thoughts about Allah and strive for the akhirah. Don't worry yourself too much about the things of dunya.

Here's an answer to what you should do if there has been a delay in your marriage. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ease everyone's pain, aameen.

Q. Does the delay of a girl’s marriage have anything to do with al-qada’ wa’l-qadar (the divine will and decree)? I am a girl who fears Allaah and I pray, but marriage has been delayed for me. Very few men have proposed marriage to me and all of them have faults, mostly in the area of religious commitment. I am asking: does the delay in marriage have any connection to the will and decree of Allaah or is it that I have committed a sin and Allaah is angry with me, although I fear Allaah greatly and Allaah has given me a share of beauty? I want to put my mind at rest by asking you.

Islamic Research Center for Hadith

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.

Live for Allah and die for Allah :)

‎"Let one of you acquire a thankful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter."
[Ibn Majah 1856, Sahih by Albani also Silsilah sahiha 2176].

There are only two kinds of Love which don't hurt:
1) Love for Allah (subhanahu wa ta'Ala)
2) And Love for the sake of Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'Ala)

‎"Be with Allah, if He has taken from you that which you could never have imagined losing, He will give you that which you could never have imagined owning.”

-Shaykh Muḥammad Mutawallī al-Shaʿrāwī"

Islamic Reflections

“When Allah gives, it’s a gift. When Allah withholds, that too is a gift.”
—
Dr. Umar Abd-Allah

ISLAM4PEACE

Two things make the heart very hard: too much speech and too much food.

—Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad

It is better for a woman to be married than to remain single, but it is better for her to be single than to be married to an oppressive, abusive man who makes her life an intolerable misery.

It is also better to be in a respectful polygamous marriage than in an intolerable monogamous marriage.

Marriages should not be broken for petty reasons, but when there are serious matters beyond reconciliation, divorce comes as a saviour. 
If a woman was supposed to be forced to live in an intolerable marriage, why would the Almighty give her the right to apply for a dissolution of her marriage upon the non-fulfilment of her rights by her husband? (Mufti Ismail Menk)
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BEWARE OF SUSPICION!

Narrated By Abu Hurairah (Radhy-ALLAHu 'Anhu):

The PROPHET (Sall-ALLAHu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) Said, "Beware of Suspicion, For Suspicion Is The Worst o f False Tales; And Do Not Look For The Others' Faults And Do Not Spy, And Do Not Be Jealous of One Another, And Do Not Desert (Cut Your Relation With) One Another, And Do Not Hate One Another; O ALLAH's Worshippers! Be Brothers (As ALLAH Has Ordered You!")

Bukhari Vol. 8 : No. 90

‎" We often thank a bad friend for reminding us to do something stupid but become upset when a good friend reminds us to do the right thing "

[Mufti Ismail Menk]

How true is this statement?? We dont get angry at our good friends, we BUILD HATRED TOWARDS THEM!

May Allah Guide our Hearts! Ameen!

Dua's - Fortress Of The Muslims

♥ Marriage in Islam completes half of your deen.
♥ Do not be swayed by good looks or money as these will come and go.
♥ Marry a man who Truely fears and loves Allaah. Who puts Islam 1st before anything.
♥ Learn and walk in deen together.
♥ Go in a marriage with the purpose in getting closer to Allaah and Insha Allaah it will be a blessed marriage. !!! ::)

‎"Sit only in the company of one who advises you to desire little from this world and who encourages you to put your hopes in the Hereafter. Take care not to sit with worldly people who speak constantly about worldly affairs; such people will ruin your religious well-being and will corrupt your heart."

— Sufyaan Ath-Thauree (rahimullaah)

‎7 practical steps to help you face any difficult situation

►Salah: Make sure you stick to praying on time – 5 times a day. Never miss a Salah and do your best to pray each Salah with sincerity as if it’s your last Salah in this world.

►Read Quran: This Quran is so beautiful that no matter what difficulties you face you’ll find solace in it.

►Make Dua: Especially the Dua for removing anxiety.

►Give Sadaqah.: Give lots of charity, as much as you can, because it helps push away hardship. And if you can’t give money, even kind words or physical sadaqah can do (i.e. helping people physically or emotionally).

►Set Goals and Have Vision: Don’t let shaytaan play with you and keep replaying the video of your hardship in your mind over and over again, move on! Set new goals, new projects, and remember you’re with Allah, nothing should stop you!

►Wake up Early: Wake up before Fajr and work on your ideas and projects, or simply read Qur’an. Getting busy before day break is a definite way to move away from your hardship and overcome challenges. Get most of your ideas/work done in these early hours, these are blessed hours.

►Hardship is Not Lost: Remember, Allah will never forget the injustice/hardship you faced, so don’t worry about seeking revenge or trying to get justice.

*Slave Of Allah*


”When a test comes to you:
1. Know that everything is by Qadr of Allah
2. Remember that other people have bigger problems than you
3. Remember the death of the Prophet (pbuh), the greatest calamity the Ummah faced
4. Maybe through this trial, Allah has saved you from an even bigger trial.5. Through this trial Allah will remove some of your sins
6. Through this trial Allah has opened up a huge world of ibadah like sabr, salah, repentance etc
7. With this trial, Allah is putting you on the path of the Prophets. It is a confirmation that Allah loves you. The more Allah loves somebody, the more he tests them.”
— Sheikh Tawfique

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‎'Be thankful for what you have; you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.'

Allah knows your anxieties. Allah knows your worries. If you're thinking of Him, He's already taken care of those worries

‎"Allah has a perfect plan for our lives but He never reveals it to us all at once. Just step by step because He wants to teach us to walk by Faith and not by Sight."

“You know you love someone, when you pray for them more than you pray for yourself!

The Prophet sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said :
“The supplication of a Muslim for his (Muslim) brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Everytime he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: `A meen! May it be for you, too.” [Muslim, 1495]

’Abdullaah Ibn ‘Abbaas (and also in the narration mentioned by Ibn Hajar, Abu Hurayrah), said that the Prophet Muhammad said:
“Whoever sticks to my Sunnah (my way, my path, my practice, my teachings) when my Ummah becomes corrupt, will receive the reward of 100 martyrs.”

Ibn al-Qayyim:

“How many people have caused misery to their own children, the apples of their eyes, in this world and in the Hereafter, by neglecting them, not disciplining them, encouraging them to follow their whims and desires, thinking that they were honoring them when they were in fact humiliating them, that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them. They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter. If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.”(Tuhfat al-Mawlood, p. 146)

All the oceans and rivers couldn't extinguish the smallest rock in hell, but a teardrop you shed in fear of Allaah could save you from it!

Shaikh Musa Jibril

Abu Hazim Salamah bin Dinar:

"No servant of Allah mends what is between him and Allah, except that Allah mends what is between him and other servants. And he does not spoil what is between him and Allah, except that Allah spoils what is between him and the servants of Allah. Working for the sake of ones face is easier than working for the sake of all faces. For if you work for the sake of that Face [the Face of Allah], all faces will turn to you. But if you spoil it, all faces will the detest you."

(Abu Nu'aym, al-Hilya 3/239)

Allah's Apostle (May Peace,blessings and mercy of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala be on him) said,

"Do not wish to be like anyone, except in two cases: (1) A man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it righteously. (2) A man whom Allah has given wisdom (knowledge of the Quran and the Hadith) and he acts according to it and teaches it to others."

Its good to leave each day behind, like flowing water, free of sadness. Yesterday is gone & its tale told. Today new seeds are growing.

{Rumi}

Luqman's (pbuh) advice to his son

The Qur’ân contains ten precious advices Luqmân offered his son. Following is the list of this advice offered to Muslim parents, that they may communicate them to their children, family and members of society that they may implement them. If this valuable advise is followed and implemented then we will all be on the straight Path leading to Paradise. Luqmân himself summed up in a few words the way to succeed in this life and on the Day of Judgement.

1. Luqmân warns his son against the greatest injustice man can do. Allâh said that Luqmân said:

"O my son! Join not in worship others with Allâh. Verily, joining others in worship with Allâh is a great injustice indeed." [31:13]

Luqmân calls his son: "My Son". To do so catches his son's attention so that he may listen carefully to his father . Then he calls his son's attention to Tawhid. " Shirk," Luqmân said:" Is a great injustice indeed ".

Therefore, the one who associates others with Allâh in worship does injustice to Allâh, the owner and Creator of the universe. A great injustice is also done to the Mushrik by his own sellf as he subjects himself to Allâh's anger and eternal punishment in Hell.

2. Luqmân reminds his son of the rights of his parents on him,

"and We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and good to his parents. His mother bore him upon weakness and hardship" [31:14]

He describes hardships mothers face bearing children.

"And his weaning is in two years, give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination." [ 31:14]

Luqmân mentions the total dependence of infants on their mothers for two years. Thank Allâh, and then your parents . In not, then the final destination is to Allâh.

"And if they both strive with you to make you join in worship with me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly." [31:15]

Luqmân tells his son that if the parents are Mushrikîn, then do not follow their way: Allâh's right comes first by far. Even so. for as long as the live, treat your Mushrik parents with kindness.

3. Luqmân then describes some of Allâh's Might.

"O my son! If it be equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and tough it be as a rock, or in the Heavens or the earth, Allâh will bring it forth. Verily Allâh is subtle in bringing out that grain, well aware of its place." [31:16]

Allâh's Knowledge is so perfect that the existence of anything, big or small, is acknowledged and controlled by Him. Luqmân tries to impress his son reminding him of Allâh's absolute control over His kingdom. Such might and power must not be challenged or ignored by anyone.

4. A great advice to Luqman's son is to establish regular prayer, on time and with the best possible performance,

"O my son! Offer prayer perfectly." [31:17]

Prayer is the direct connection between a Muslim and his Creator. Parents must take great care to teach and call upon their children to establish prayer.

5. Luqmân advises his son to "enjoin (people) for good, and forbid from evil." [31:17]

If every Muslim observe this duty , then evil and mischief will have no place in Muslim society.

6. After the useful advice he offered his son, Luqmân recommended patience in implementing them, and in all matters of life,

"And bear with patience whatever befalls you. Verily, these are some of the important commandments ordered by Allâh with no exemption." [31:17]

Patience is a righteous act ordered, and rewarded by Allâh.

7. Arrogance is an attribute of Allâh alone and not for man.

The Creator and Owner of the universe is the only One who deserves to be Arrogant. Allâh threatens arrogant people with punishment in Hellfire. Luqmân said:

"And turn not your face away from men with pride." [31:18]

8. To be moderate is a great attitude anyone can possess,

"Nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily Allâh likes not each arrogant boaster." [31:18]

Allâh does not like that man is arrogant and proud of themselves.

9. To be moderate in walking and talking is also one of Luqman's advises to his son, "And be moderate (or show no insolence) in walking." [31:19]

Islâm offers a code of conduct in every aspect of life. Even the way Muslims walk and talk are regulated. Islam offers guidelines in this regard that will produce the best behavior and generate respect.

10. Luqmân reminds his son that being harsh while talking will liken his voice to the braying of a donkey. Shouting does not win hearts, rather , it will offend and alienate people,

"And lower your voice. Verily the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying] of an ass!!" [31:19]