Real man

The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever allows the world to become his biggest concern has nothing to do with Allah, and Allah will instill four qualities into his heart: anxiety which will never leave him, business which he will never be free from, poverty which he will never rid himself of, and hope which he will never fulfill."

Saif Ul Lah

Helping one's wife with the housework

Many men think that housework is beneath them, and some of them think that it will undermine their status and position if they help their wives with this work. The Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h.), however, used to sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other workmen do in their homes. (Reported by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/121; Sahih al-Jami, 4927). This was said by his wife Aishah (RA), when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h.) used to do in his house; her response described what she herself had seen.

According to another report, she said: "He was like any other human being: he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself." (Reported by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/256; al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 671)

She (RA) was also asked about what the Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h.) used to do in his house, and she said, "He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray." (Reported by al-Bukhari, al-Fath, 2/162).

If we were to do likewise nowadays, we would achieve three things:
* We would be following the example of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.).
* We would be helping our wives.
* We would feel more humble, not arrogant.
Some men demand food instantly from their wives, when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed; they do not pick up the child or wait a little while for the food. Let these Hadith be a reminder and a lesson.

Points on Love and Marriage in Islam :

1. Love cannot be controlled. Stop trying to control the person you love. Love is in the Hands of Allāh.

2. The term “love” was mentioned a lot in the Qur’ān and Sunnah. It is not something to be ashamed of or to be shy to mention. In some cultures, if the wife dares to say the word “love” at home, then it is strange and impolite. Generally speaking, love  as mentioned in the Sunnah and if it was considered vulgar or obscene, then the Prophet (ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would not have mentioned it.

3. To love your spouse is not ḥarām and not something to be ashamed of. It is not a sign of weakness. In some cultures, a man who shows his love to his spouse is showing weakness. Rasūlullāh (ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) loved his wives and was never a weak person.

Winning your husband’s heart!

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
2. Dress pleasantly/ attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your pyjamas suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.4. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother. (Not ALL in laws are bad)
5. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.
6. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”.
7. Call his family often.
8. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
9. Encourage him to do good deeds.
10. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, Insha’Allah.
11. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.
12. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
13. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.
14. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.

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A real man doesn't treat women like a buffet.

A real man pursues a WIFE, not a girlfriend and he goes about it the right way. If a Real man is interested in a female, he goes to their parents to let them know his intentions, like how they did it back in the days.

A real man works on lowering his gaze when beautiful women walk by.

A real man keeps his interactions with women short, cordial and to the point and doesn't let it go longer so flirting and dirty thoughts can come into the mix. If a man is married, he stays faithful and doesn't leer his eyes elsewhere – and that includes the TV, the internet and magazines.

A real man is respectful to his wife, both in public and in private.

A real man does not raise his hands to his wife no matter what the case is.

A real man doesn't point out his wife's flaws and treat her like a second-class citizen.

A real man treats every female (that isn't his wife) he comes in contact with in the same way he treats his mother or sister.