No matter how strong you think you are, love will make you a slave. So be careful what you love.
What is the value of dua? That you are transferring a situation from your power & ability to the power & ability of ALLAH. You are moving obstacles from yourself to the One who has no OBSTACLES."
►JOIN: Dua's - Fortress Of The Muslims
♥
♥ click on Share :)
♥
via Muslimah Spirit
♥
A man goes to a sheikh and says,
"Oh sheikh, I've been married for year and I have kids but in the past few years I've noticed I'm not attracted to my wife any longer."
The sheikh starts to ask him why? Has she gained any weight?
Man: No, she looks the same.
Sheikh: Did she get into an accident, did something deform her image?
Man: No, she looks the same.
So the sheikh asks "Do you have a hard time lowering your gaze when women walk past you? Do you have issues with pornography?"
Man: Yeah, how did you know about that?
Sheikh: "When you indulge in Haraam, when you fall in love with the Haraam, when you eat, sleep, and breathe in the Haraam, then the Halal becomes disgusting to you."
"What you love to have with you in the Hereafter you should advance today, and what you hate to have with you, you should abandon today." [Salman Ibn Dinar]
Forget falling in love: Falling is never a good thing. Love as we know it (from our romantic notions) is simply another word for physical attraction. It lasts usually for 2 weeks.
Since you want your marriage to last a bit longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again.
Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth. So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love.
This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage.
This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
Since you want your marriage to last a bit longer than that, it is a good idea to focus on respect which will grow into love.
Not falling into but growing into. What does that mean? It means that 25 years after you have been married every time you look at your spouse you fall in love all over again.
Growing in love means evolving a common language of looks, signals and words that only you two can understand. It is almost magical to see it work. I wish it for all those who read this. That is heaven on earth. So it is respect, honor and dignity that result in love.
This love is where your spouse will stand up for you and defend you, never laugh at you in public, be considerate of your faults and hide them and be focused on the many good things that you bring to the marriage.
This love means that she/he will not complain about the difficulties that may happen along the way but will work with you to overcome them and stand in the night and cry before Allah and ask for His intervention.
This is the person who will never leave your side as long as you live and will pray for your forgiveness when you are gone. In my experience this is the only person who you can rely on to do it, for all others will forget after a while.
Relationships made with the fear of Allah, do not need promises, terms, and conditions. It just needs two wonderful people; one who can trust and one who can understand.
*Amatullah*
“Your strongest love should be for God. But you can’t love someone you don’t know. You need to know Him. You don’t know someone that you don’t speak to. Speak to Him. Ask of Him. You can’t love someone you don’t remember. Remember Him and remember Him often.”
— Yasmin Mogahed
Loving Prophet Muhammad (may Allah bless him and grant him peace)
Among the rights of the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) upon his nation is complete and perfect love for him.
He said, "None of you [truly] believes until I am more beloved to him than his child, his parent and all people." (Al - Bukhari)
So any person who does not love the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) cannot be a believer, even if he should have a Muslim name and live among Muslims.
The greatest degree of love for the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) is to love him more than oneself. 'Umar ibn al - Khattab (may Allah be pleased him) once said to him, "O Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace), you are more beloved to me than everything except myself.
"The Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) replied, "No, by the one in whose hand is my soul - not until I am more beloved to you than yourself."
Then 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, "Now, by Allah, you are more beloved to me than myself." So the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, "Now [you have believed], 'Umar." (Al - Bukhari)
AL- Fawaid
'The lover loves that which his beloved loves, and hates what is hated by the beloved. He supports whomever is supported by his beloved and the enemy of the beloved is his enemy. The pleasure of the beloved is also his pleasure, and so too is their anger shared. What his beloved requires he also requires, he forbids what his beloved forbids, for they are, in all things, agreed.'
- Shaykh Muhammad Saeed Al-Qahtaani
- Shaykh Muhammad Saeed Al-Qahtaani
Abu Umamah reported: The Messenger of Allah, (sallAllahu álayhi wasalam) said,
“Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith.”
[Sunan Abu Dawud, Book of Sunnah, Number 4681, Hasan]
No comments:
Post a Comment